boys don’t cry // collab w/ rox & ky

i know what you’re thinking… that ‘boys don’t cry’ is a meaningless phrase that somehow doesn’t apply to you.. that ‘boys’ should be ‘men’ and ‘men’ should have ‘beards’ and ‘beards‘ stay away from colours like ‘pastel pink’ & ‘baby blue’.. because somehow ‘softer colours’ make ‘softer men’ and maybe, just maybe one day they’ll shed a tear, and then…

i first met rox (Roxanne Batt / @batt_hair) at carltons after i spent some time calling various barber shops in cape town, and was damn impressed with my cut… when i went back some three weeks later to my new favourite barber, rox had suddenly disappeared without a forwarding address – after an extensive instagram stalk however, i found her at barber & co and have been getting my hair cut & styled there with her since. as someone who is so passionate about the creative scene in cape town, i get all warm & fuzzy inside when i hear people like rox talking about their need to create art in their own way and follow their dreams.

needless to say, rox and i really connected and we started chatting about possibly doing a shoot together one day which finally materialised into ‘boys don’t cry’. my good friend kye (Rebecca Vogel / @imagerybykye) joined us as photographer, i was creative director, and rox cut, coloured, & styled our models (bradley & grant).

the concept behind this series was to highlight the issue around boys being ‘bullied’ into ‘tougher men’, and the ever resounding paradox of having to be a ‘man’ in a society that is so concerned with telling boys not to cry, it is blinded to the accumulating masses of boys & men in a state of severe depression trying to make sense of years & years of bottled up emotion. i think being strong has more to do with waking up each morning ready to face the day, and less to do with whether you’ve got teardrops on your pink sweater.

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creative director: @iam_kxlvin

hair: @batt_hair

photography: @imagerybykye

models: bradley, grant

breaking the model // #creativespace collab w/ @we_married_hair

i had fun meeting & collaborating with viggo & jamie (the lovely couple behind @we_married_hair), the stunning nicole nadine, & my good friend phil morris (who i’ve obviously met before, yes) last weekend. viggo & jamie invited me to join them for their first official #creativespace collaboration (which i’ll be explaining in my next post, so stay tuned).

we started off the day with colouring hair & ended it off with sunset street shoots. i came on as creative director and stylist, while i played photographer and editor. viggo and jamie made our models, nicole and phil look other-worldy with some fresh colour, cut, & styling. nicole and phil mostly just sat patiently throughout the day, & then looked pretty while we snapped some pics.

the concept behind this series ‘breaking the model’ was to play on the idea of ‘different, but still beautiful’ by creating an almost uncomfortable ‘wax-model’ like effect with our models, in two distinct aesthetics – raw & military. awkward posture along with careful composition and desaturated colour resulted in some beautiful imagery.

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creative director: @iam_kxlvin

hair: @we_married_hair

models: nicole nadinephil morris

series / military aesthetic *

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creative director: @iam_kxlvin

hair: @we_married_hair

models: nicole nadinephil morris

 

 

EXECUTE YOUR DREAM.

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…and by execute I mean bring your dream to life. We have been given this beautiful opportunity to live life, and why more people are not running like they are on fire towards their wildest dreams honestly baffles me. Imagine how incredible you could be in a single years time, if you stopped fantasizing about a better life and actively started building one. Pursue your dream man, go after everything you’ve ever wanted, let’s paint the town red and light up the sky. It’s pretty scary and overwhelming taking that first step, blindly following you dreams (and believe me half the time even I’m terrified with not being sure of what I’m doing), but what I do know is that it’s worth it. Every second that you spend being extraordinary, every minute that you spend chasing your dream, every hour that you spend creating your legacy, it’s all worth it.

I thought I’d share a few things that helped me, and that are still helping me:

Make the Decision.

What sets your soul on fire like nothing else? Your dreams are yours, whether they’re small and simple, or big and hella’ scary; no one else should be an influence on their importance to you. Make the decision to invest; invest time, energy, passion, invest yourself into your dream. Make the decision to pursue. Make the decision to stay dedicated.

Cut the Bullshit. 

What do you need to change in your life to make your dreams happen? Dreams take time, passion, motivation, hard work, focus, and positive energy. Following your dream requires a change of personality, a change of lifestyle, and a change of perspective. Are you the person you want to be? Are you the person you need to be? I found myself experiencing a phenomenal amount of growth after I made the decision to make my dreams reality.  You’ve made the decision to invest, now cut the bullshit and make your dreams come true.

Let the Magic Happen.

Dream. Imagine. Take the time to let your dream blossom, let your vision grow, let it consume your entire being. Allow your dream to course through your veins, allow your dream to give you goosebumps, let it make your heart race and your eyes shine. Be excited, be passionate, be scared. These feelings are good. I have gone through rollercoaster rides of emotions over the last few years; up, down, and around – these emotions are good, they fuel the fire burning inside. Enjoy them, acknowledge them, let them be.

Start.

Let your dream start to materialise. Write it down, stick it to your wall, make it your wallpaper. See your dream, breathe your dream, be your dream. Write down why your dream is important to you. Give your dream legs, give it wings, let it run wild and fly free. I use Pinterest, a lot.. like a lot a lot.. I’ve lost count of how many boards I have, crazy I know, but honestly what a great way to be inspired; and if not Pinterest, find your own way to see your dreams take shape.

Execute Your Dream. 

Baby steps or giant leaps – the choice is yours; but get up and get going. Dreaming about a dream will always just make it a dream, it’s up to you now to make it come to life.

Feel free to message me if you want direction, inspiration, motivation, or support; I’m always happy to help where I can! Now go make it happen, I’m counting on you.

x

Love

kal